As an experienced teacher I’ve acquired a sense of when my “audience” is paying attention or not. When I gave talks across the country about kindness, community and humanity the part that garnered the most attention was when I pointed out we have empathy. Most humans have the ability to feel each others joys, to feel each others pain. Empathy is the foundation for why we are an altruistic species under the conditions of small band society, unaffected by centralized, paternal influences. Empathy is the reason why it is right to behave altruistically; empathy is the reason why most humans feel good when they do so. Empathy as a virtue is the driving force behind kindness.
Kindness Virtues
Kindness is a virtue that best resides in the context of community, a local setting of intimacy. Kindness requires several virtues in their own right. I list them here:
Empathy
Leisure
Humility
Courage
Faith
Using Community Virtues to Address Serious Issues
Self-sufficiency, oneness, networks, expectations and kindness are all virtues in their own. They all are right, how we were meant to behave starting out as an altruistic species. They all are good, providing an immediate benefit to an individual’s quality of life. Put them all together in a community and you can tackle the serious issues facing humanity. Universal access to such things as food, housing and health care do not occur accept in the context of a community applying its virtues towards that end.
Community Virtues – Kindness
You can find kindness anywhere, as we did when we hiked across the country. Having said that, kindness resides where there are intimate connections and our empathy kicks in. Kindness does not reside in the anonymity of governments, corporations or interest groups. Local communities are where kindness thrives, where people are best equipped to feel and respond to the needs of others.
Community Virtues – Expectations
On the one hand people tend to conserve energy while on the other hand people want to belong. The first impulse allows someone else to expend the energy necessary to get something done, while the second impulse leads one to expend their own energy in responsible contributions to feel like they belong. We also tend to live up or down to expectations. In a vibrant community expectations of responsibility are needed to bring out that second impulse in everyone. Even in a community program designed to address need, their should be some expectations of the needy to contribute to the program in at least some small way.
Community Virtues – Networks
Community networks are the same as social networks. People extend what they are capable of doing by the people with whom they connect. In theory, everyone in a vibrant community is connected; networking entails taking advantage of those connections to better administer and publicize a worthy community program.
The value of networking can be understood by looking at an opposite condition, heroism. A person or an organization heroically assumes the burden alone for a worthy community program. We’ve become a hero/idol driven society, but there are several problems with this in the context of community. First, heroes can burn out or fall from grace, and the worthy community program the hero spearheaded suffers accordingly. Second, heroism relieves the responsibility from all those who are not “heroes;” there becomes less ownership and buy-in from the community. Third, less people will know what’s going on or get involved when the “good news” only emanates from once source.
Community Virtues – Oneness
I’ve already shared on here the most memorable quote from the ADT Journey. The Director of the community meals program in Leaville, CO stated that their goal was to “confuse who is giving and who is receiving.” Bringing people with the same beliefs and background together is nothing special, interest groups do it all the time. The result can be something that caters wholly to the self-interests of the individual. Ah, but when you can bring people together from different means, beliefs and backgrounds you have a spirit of oneness that is the very essence of community, people putting aside differences to make the very best of their common living situation.
Community Virtues – Self-sufficient
Just as every individual is unique, so is every community. Within the context of community there are different ways to pursue the Happiness and Health we all seek, with no one right way being universally the best. One virtue of a natural community is devising self-sufficient solutions to the issues they face. A self-sufficient community program is tailored to the unique experiences of the community. They are void of the strings attached that might be connected with external benefactors such as federal programs or corporations. They also call forth greater ownership and involvement by the community to be self-sufficient. A self-sufficient community is both right, how a natural community is meant to behave to best survive, and good, providing the precise benefits that a community needs.
Community Virtues
I’ve covered the list of five humanity virtues; now to begin the list of five community virtues. Humanity virtues are those that apply to the whole, collective human species. One of those virtues was community, caring for each other in the context of small band society. Community virtues then are what is right and good about living in small bands, whether that small band be a small town, urban neighborhood or commune. You will note that each of the “community five” has a corollary with the “humanity five” as it applies to small band behavior. Here is the list of five; I’ll cover each separately as well.
Self-sufficient
Oneness
Networks
Responsibility
Kindness
BEACH Virtues
Before I left to hike across the country I drafted a book, yet to be published, called The Five Forgotten Truths. With a little moderation those five truths are the five humanity virtues I just covered. A coworker pointed out a clever acronym from those virtues.
Belonging
Egalitarian
Autonomy
Community
Happiness
That former book is now on hold while I work on the one about the walk across the country. When I come back to it I’m now thinking about this for a working title: Life’s a BEACH. What do you think?
