Category Archives: True Love

The inspirational true love story of Kirk and Cindy’s determination to live well despite her tragic affliction with Alzheimer’s.

Musings on the Alzheimer’s Mind

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We approached the post office door as someone was leaving, his arm full of packages pressed up to his chin. He attempted to prop the door open for us, but dropped one of the packages. Cindy immediately responded with “let … Continue reading

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Goodnight Mom

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Cindy often read “Goodnight Moon” by Margaret Wise Brown to our kids. My reading specialties tended to be the series and epics, everything from Dr. Seuss to Lord of the Rings. Cindy read the nurturing books and singular classics, like … Continue reading

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Foreshadowing and Numbness

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Early morning had arrived, just beginning to intrude on the darkness in the room. I heard Cindy go: “Uh-oh.” Recent events led me to believe she had an accident, but we were prepared for such accidents and I could wait … Continue reading

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Tobey Pond

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I’m now in good enough shape to pedal the pedicab with Cindy up the steep road to Tobey Pond. The idyllic pond is one of the iconic pastoral places of Norfolk, perhaps THE iconic pastoral place after the more centrally … Continue reading

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Caregiving and Incontinence

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In the corner of our bedroom lies a box of absorbent mattress pads and adult diapers. They were purchased shortly after had an accident at night and during the day within the same 24 hour period. I embrace the use … Continue reading

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Supper in the Bathroom

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While using most of the funds from donations we received for purchasing a pedicab, a very small amount was used to acquire a bathtub stool, a very low budget alternative to the walk-in tub. I won’t say the stool makes … Continue reading

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Two Comments, Four Conditions

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Sometimes the events of a day link together in such a way as to provide an inescapable, meaningful message. Yesterday was such a day. The morning started out as perhaps my worst as a caregiver. I won’t go into the … Continue reading

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The Pedicab Plan

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You know that saying: “It’s just like riding a bicycle!” Well, it does not apply to pedicabs. On Wednesday our good friend Ed Kostak brought me down to NYC to pick up our new pedicab; later that day I concluded … Continue reading

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A Night OFF

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I spent this night away from Cindy. It was the first night off from being her caregiver in 2 ½ years; it likely will be the last off. There were contradictory reasons for taking this night off, depending how the … Continue reading

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From Tub to Rickshaw

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Due to your touching generosity, we are 70% of the way towards our goal of $3000 for a walk-in tub. At this point in the Calm the Mind campaign, I’ve discovered I sometimes am not the sharpest tool in the … Continue reading

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